How to Be Resilient: Even when it’s Had to Say No Sometimes
When the going gets tough; The tough get going. This old saying always boost my resiliency.
When the going gets tough; The tough get going. This old saying always boost my resiliency.
Times are tough all over for most people. Even though we blame the economy and the pandemic — there’s more to it than that.
Life is full of Challenges
Life is full of challenges and problems of all kinds. But it’s all in how you handle what life throws your way. The good and the bad! And yes “shit” happens to everyone! Learning how to get skilled at being resilient is the key. No one is born tough. So, what does it mean to have resilience?
Webster’s definition is the following:
the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.
Americans have been so spoiled for so long — but now times are getting tougher — it’s time to get back to the basics. Learning how to know the difference between your wants and your needs is a guide to survival.
I grew up in the 50’s and 60’s era when life was slower and in my opinion better than life today for me. Yes, I understand that technology has brought us a lot of conveniences which make for saving time and is suppose to afford us more freedom and a better lifestyle.
I appreciate the cellphone, even though sometimes it bothers my eyes and even causes me overwhelm. But I control that monster and often tell my sister, I refuse to be married to the cell phone. Really, I can go work in my garden without my cellphone going along with me. I need to have my peace!
Do you remember the days of Ma Bell telephone, when we had to go find a pay phone some place and put a dime in it just to talk 3 minutes!
Resilience is termed as “grit.” In my younger years, when I was in my natural prime, my feelings were easily hurt. Sometimes, I would cry or pout and stay to myself to get over it. I guess this was the time in my life when I was “toughing up.” Then as the years passed and I had to face “real” hardship — I reasoned there were only 2 options:
Live or Die!
This mindset gave me courage to bend and take charge in becoming more resilient. Now that I’m about to turn 71 — I’m happy that I mastered resiliency when I was young. I may not have survived the hard times of gas rationing, low wages, barely paying my bills and the list goes on. Too much to mention here.
Getting old is not easy…although I don’t feel a day over 50 — and definitely not for the weak.
Adopt the Power of Love
While society has a tendency to favor youth, women especially have to grow thick tough skin to fight their battles. You have to learn “when” to say no.
Before I sign off, let me say being resilient is achieved more easily if you adopt the power of love in everything you do. Love creates patience, which makes you a more resilient person.
If you learn how to cultivate love for the earth, animals, people, learn to appreciate your blessings, and most of all love and respect your creator — then you will do just fine living your best life. You will be able to face any challenge that life throws out to you.
How resilient are you?
Do you sweat the little things in your life?
Do you know when to say “No”?
Thanks for reading.